Do you have that one aunt, uncle, cousin, friend, etc. that feels the need to lecture you about your significant other?
I have had it on 3 occasions now, with little sessions here & there.
Two of my uncles gave me the talk that I should get someone who is on my level. One who is educated, professional & that I shall not settle. I should be an independent woman with no need to stand behind any man. To a degree they are within reason & have the right to “advise” their niece. But where are the boundaries drawn?
My aunt just recently gave me the similar lecture & said that I should also get someone who is on my level, but who is she to assume that my significant other isn’t educated or good enough for me? She hasn’t seen me in over 6yrs and lives 3hrs away in flight 0_o.
Her main points:
- Find a man who is on my level – both educationally & mentally.
- Find someone who wants to better themselves, move forward and improve with you.
- Scout out men in places where professionals would be, aim high. && etc. etc. blahh
You know sometimes you can’t help who you love of fall in love with. Yes of course, we set out to find all these things in a significant other but if they don’t have ALL the qualities you seek, do you not give them the time of day?!
What about the love, devotion, mental, emotional and physical fulfillment? Is that of no value; has this world come to be only superficial? What your job title is, how much you earn, the car you drive? Why would I spend my time chasing after people who wouldn’t give me the time of day when I already have someone who makes me happy, loves me for who I am. I can be myself with no judgment.
It is what it is, I am living in the moment and presently I am fulfilled. It is, what it is. Sometimes we focus too much on the future & forget about the present; nothing in life is promised. I rather have experienced love now then to aimlessly run and chase the perfect man, die tomorrow & have not found or experienced love at all. I have my whole life ahead of me, who`s to say that something won’t change tomorrow or even after this blog post is posted?
Just leave it up to me to live the life I want to live because thus far I have no regrets. Let me make my own mistakes, fall but rebuild, cry, learn, mature, prosper, laugh, live life!
Sometimes people peer into our lives without having true justification behind the words they try to “advise” you with. Judge you without looking at themselves and their past actions, or the actions of their very own children & GRANDCHILDREN!! (well in my situation) But I am sure we have all had someone try to bash the person we are thinking/choosing to be with.
I had to vent! Thanks for reading 🙂